Influencing the world around you to think like you

I hold that a strongly marked personality can influence descendants for generations. – Beatrix Potter

Success isn’t defined by your account balance or even the things they can purchase. This is hard to perceive in our societies because of the undue import we have placed on money in our culture – our music, crafts, religions, “love”.

Nonetheless there are some people the civilized world will never forget. People that will not be remembered for the money they had but for the indelible mark they left behind. In our recent history the simple man, Mahatma Gandhi, stands shoulder above many. He was reputed as the man that ended British rule in India. The most remarkable part of Gandhi’s weaponry was the absence of weapons. He believed unequivocally in non-violent resistance at all times and stood by that philosophy until his death in January 1948. Let us consider what his philosophy achieved in the lives of some famous people (revolutionaries in their own right):

1)   Leaders of the civil rights movement in the United States, Martin Luther King and James Lawson, drew from the writings of Gandhi in the development of their own theories about non-violence.

2)  Nelson Mandela: “Nonviolence is a powerful and just weapon. Indeed, it is a weapon unique in history, which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it.”

3)     Albert Einstein: Gandhi is "a role model for the generations to come."

4)     British musician John Lennon referred to Gandhi as an influence on his music.

5)     Senator Barack Obama: "Throughout my life, I have always looked to Mahatma Gandhi as an inspiration, because he embodies the kind of transformational change that can be made when ordinary people come together to do extraordinary things. That is why his portrait hangs in my Senate office: to remind me that real results will come not just from Washington – they will come from the people."

This then is success: Influencing the world around you to think like you and inspire to your aspirations. All successful people had this feature of success. That is what made them great folks. That’s what made them indispensable to human history.

Impacting the World with the investment of your Internal Capacity

                              Work on being and not on having. – TL Osborne

For many people success is all about the money they have and what they can acquire with it. Although money and the things money can buy are important, this perspective of success is grossly lopsided and inadequate for the present-day world. I say this not because success hasn’t always been more than just money but because of the dire need of the world for people who have substance within them.

The story of Moses is an interesting one. It applies more-so today as it has always done. He was born at a time when giving birth to a son was a major quandary. The most powerful man on earth had decreed that male babies born to Israeli families be killed – this was his own birth control measure. In Moses’ case he was favored enough to be raised in the home of Pharaoh and so escaped death. Beyond escaping death, he was also raised as a prince undergoing all the teachings needed for an heir-apparent. He was trained on administration, public relations, dispute settlement, and managing people. After forty years of the best training money can pay for, he spent the next forty years in the wilderness tending sheep for his father in-law. If you love activity and movement then the life of a shepherd isn’t the best career choice for you. Everyday seems like the day before. With sheep as his only companions, he learned to be extremely patient.

Moses was now not only trained in the complicated skill of leading people, he was also trained to be patient at all times. Then – only then – came the last forty years of his life. Moses led the whole nation of Israel out of captivity, stood in as the only obstacle to their destruction many times, dialogued with troublesome citizens, delegated his responsibilities to others, established the first known constitution, and many more things. By the end of Moses’ life it was obvious that he was a very successful leader and person. Moses was successful not because of the money he earned or even the office he occupied, but because of the impact his internal capacity made to the world around him.

That is the definition of success – impacting the world around you with the investment of your internal capacity. It is an investment because it takes years of building and consistency to enlarge your internal capacity. It takes years of (sometimes) painstaking reading, practice, volunteering, practice, service, practice, practice, practice to enlarge your internal capacity.

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How to Live a Real Life

Large numbers of people in our societies and beyond live virtual lives. For something to be virtual means that it seems real but actually is not. It means that although it looks physical and present, it isn’t tangible.

In the world of airlines, flight simulators have been used for over twenty years in training pilots. These flight simulators are used for training pilots in developing new skills in handling aircraft under unusual operating conditions, and discovering the flight characteristics of the new aircraft. Simulators – as their names denote – virtually simulate the flying experience and maneuvers for the pilot while s/he sits comfortably – or uncomfortably – in a room. Virtual flying is important to pilot training but can never replace the real experience of flying a real plane.

As it is with virtual flights, so it is with the lives of many good people – they live virtual lives! How does a person live a virtual live? Simple. Consider the picture above and you will see that many live either in their pasts or in their futures. You identify both groups by their words. Past dwellers say things like, “I hate what he did to me. He ruined me!” “I am here because of my dad’s poor decisions in 5 years ago,” “I deserve some respect from you. I was the winner of the 1992 beauty pageant!” on the other hand, future dwellers say, “I will soon be a very rich woman,” “I will do the job tomorrow,” “Don’t look down on me. I have a feeling that will be someone important in the future.”

Do not misunderstand my emphasis. Your past and, more-so, your future is important. The issue is that they do not exist in reality. They are both in your mind. They are virtual realities. The only moment that is real and that you can use to improve the quality of your life is the moment you are experiencing as you read this article. In effect, it does not matter how long you live replaying your past or anticipating your future. The impact you seek to make can only be done with now.

Choose today not to be stagnated by your virtual yesterday – you cannot change it – or overwhelmed by your virtual tomorrow – you aren’t there yet. Live in the present. Live today. Live NOW!

What Success is...n't

One of those questions that will always be of interest to people irrespective of their generation is what exactly success is. Then quickly comes to mind the question of if success is exactly anything. I say this because success to one person may actually be utter failure to another. As it is said, “One man’s food can be another’s poison.”

Earl Nightingale once said, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” I like that – progressive realization – which means it isn’t just a destination but a journey. As for definitions of success, Earl’s ranks at the top of my list. In as much as a clear-cut definition may not universally do it for us all, it is possible to earmark what success is NOT. In doing this we will knock off some very popular perceptions and, in all chances, begin to earmark what success really means. So let’s begin.

Success is not money. Money has become a very popular gauge that measures how successful people are. Society has pushed us to points where we erroneously feel successful when our bank accounts are swelled and in effect feel unsuccessful at times they are otherwise. Rather than have this perception, know that it is possible to be successful or a failure with or without a swelled bank balance.

Success is not a destination. I have alluded to this earlier. We customarily perceive success as a point that we must attain before we think we have succeeded. Although attaining a set goal is certainly a part of the success formula, it isn’t the whole. When you keep a fixed paradigm of success as a destination and nothing else you make the journey towards that destination a difficult chore. This greatly takes from the joy of attainment.

Success is not a part of your life. It is common to perceive success as a part of a human being. “He is a successful counselor but failed in his health,” or “She is a great mother but a terrible wife,” we often say. We speak this way because we think a human being is compartmentalized like a department store. On the contrary a human is ONE and hence success must also be the whole ONE life and not a part of it.

These are not all that success isn’t but having highlighted these three, I would proceed in the next a few other articles to state what success exactly (maybe) is.

How to be alive while breathing

Are you living or simply breathing? This isn't a trick question. It is obvious that the only thing that qualifies you to be biologically referred to as a living thing is to be able to breathe in and out. If you are accomplishing this, you are alive.

But I have experienced times when I was breathing alright but not living! What I was accomplishing was surviving. I had no drive, a battered self-esteem, confused values, and short of being moral. I was not pursuing any worthwhile ideal, not planning effectively for my day and the days ahead, and not envisioning a life of social relevance and impact. This isn't far from death to me. But that wasn't what I wanted. I wanted to live everyday of my life!

There are many people who fall into this class of breathing but not living. If you want to know if you fall into this class you must be sincere enough with yourself to tell yourself the truth and also be courageous enough to face the truth when you tell it to yourself.

If you are both sincere and courageous then lets proceed to answer the 4 questions of the living-dead:

1. Do you have a present vision for your life? Without a life vision living becomes an unbearable trek down a lonely road. This is because human beings are creatures of purpose and what truly keeps us alive is the hope that we have a worthy assignment to do and that we will do it. People that have no life vision are often suicidal (given to frequent suicidal thoughts and actions) and also act in ways that suggest other people's life isn't worth living.

2. Do you have goals in every aspect of your life - financial, spiritual, family, health, career, vocation? If our human experience can be likened to the Atlantic Ocean, then our lives are the mighty ships on the Atlantic and goals are the rudder (steering wheel) of the ship. Just like without a rudder a ship will never successfully navigate the vast Atlantic Ocean to any intended destination, without goals our lives will move aimlessly in life's journey! You must have goals to live!

3. Are you doing something daily towards achieving your goals? To achieve your goals you must do something about them daily no matter how small that thing seems. Taking actions towards your goals is like taking steps towards a far destination. One step often seems insignificant in major treks but when you keep taking those steps you will eventually get there!

4. Are you socially relevant? Finally, human life isn't designed for isolation. We need people and people need us. Imagine waking up one morning to discover that you are the only person in a thousand kilometers radius of your location. You will certainly not be calm or even sane! To move from just breathing to living you must be socially relevant. Give a part of you to your society. Share yourself. Make your life significant to others. This is what is meant to be truly alive!