Associations: How to Severe from Harmful Ones

{The scope of this article DOES NOT cover for marital associations}

For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. ­– Paul (Apostle)  

Since there are many forms of relationships that take without adding to you I would suppose that you would be wondering how to severe yourself from all such. Indeed it is important you separate yourself from detrimental associations just so that you have enough time and resources for productive ones.

Your associations’ capacity is like a soil which shares its nutrients to as many plants on it. If the soil it is preoccupied with giving nutrients to weeds, it will have very little to give to the productive crops. If the productive ones will perform optimally, the weeds must be taken away to provide for enough nutrients.

All the associations in your life – symbiotic or parasitic – are made up of human beings. One denominator common to every one of us is our feelings. Whoever you need to severe from has feelings and you need to take care not to destroy the person as you tend toward severance. Some folks never recover after a severed association. They may never become open minded enough to accept that they were parasites to the person that severed the association. With such folks I advise that you severe with care. Do not seek to hurt but at the same time do not remain in the association. This will take a lot of self-control and courage from you as it may mean you physically go as far as possible from the person. Remove from you all connections that will draw you back to the destructive association.

Second, you must remain as objective as possible through the process. Never ignore the signs and pointers of a destructive relationship. There are often things that point to the fact that an association is negative to you. These pointers begin very small and ignorable but certainly grow to humongous proportions. The moment you identify clear pointers like strife and unnecessary envy, seek to severe. Remember that what begins small will grow.

The aim of severance is to allow for better productivity and progress from you. Your success journey is important and the people you associate with will help you or stop you from getting to your destination.